If we were to exchange numbers, I would quickly tell you that I hate texting and am terrible at it. What I mean though, is that I will probably hate texting you because you’re terrible at it. But it’s not your fault; it’s just how our brains evolved. Despite its proliferation, messaging apps are not designed with our brains in mind, and most people do irresponsible things on autopilot without reflecting on their behavior¹. As someone who’s researched social connection and cares about how technology alters our ability to understand other’s minds, I want to share why texting is awful. And I want to suggest ways to improve the experience if only to avoid hating you, should we ever exchange numbers.
Too Stressed for the Land of ???Zen???: How China Taught Me to Be Chill
I come from a country where you have to take weeks, months, or years of appointments in advance and God forbids you miss that…