Wow. Lot to unpack here. By the way, the article I linked out is from TED and it’s about why you shouldn’t say “I know exactly how you feel.” Read it. It’s interesting.
Conversational narcissism and the wrong 80–20
The “right” 80–20 is listen 80 percent of a conversation, talk about your own stuff 20 percent.
The wrong 80–20 would flip that — and in the process be the definition of conversational narcissism.