Anyone caught in a loop of addictive or trauma-bonded relationships instinctively recognizes the pattern in which they are caught. They “know” on a subconscious level that their choices in a partner resonate with their core wounds and that their ability to be present and emotionally vulnerable with their partner is limited because of these core wounds.
Ironically (or not), it is this exact pattern of choosing a partner who mirrors their attachment insecurities that initially attracts them to that person. They also understand that addictive or trauma-bonded relationships include high levels of manipulation and codependency that reinforce being bound by trauma to their partner.